I wrote Sue a long facebook message about a few dilemmas in my life and within seconds she wrote me back. Shes in South Korea as a teacher right now so her efficient and thought out response meant alot to me! Anywayz...i felt a few parts of the letter could apply to many people and their circumstances so here are a few excerpts...
"It just hurts like hell and you hold on fucking tight until one day, you get so tired of your own bullshit and so angry and resentful that you gave so much that you let go. Sometimes its our time to give and sometimes its our time to receive, we fall out of love when we look back and measure how much we gave someone and how much we received."
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"I wish there was a better solution but there isnt. its fool proof. you hurt enough, you get exhausted and tired and angry and resentful and peaceful and quiet and one day you just kinda heal. I dont think you stop loving them though but you must realize you are in love with the idea of that person rather than the actual person."
-Sudeshna
I remember one time I told Sue that I was heartbroken and her response was "Dont you dare ever say that. Don't ever put a boy that high in your heart. Unlike most girls your age, you have experienced real heartbreak. Your father passed away, thats real heartbreak. Thats real pain. Don't ever let a boy think he's to that level in your heart. he isn't and never will be"
Put everything in a WHOLE new perspective for me. To this day I've never considered myself "heartbroken" from a simple guy.
Basically...big sister knows all. Love you so much Sue
6 comments:
sue is brilliant.
nuff said.
lol Sue's spoken word pieces are my life mission statements hahaha
if she gives me permission imma post my fav piece of hers on here.
wow. thats deep. especially that last part. *sigh* still, sometimes emotions get in the way n its so much easier to preach something than act it out when its you in the situation
ooo its SO much easier when your emotions aren't involved, but sue preaches from experience. Thats why I ask her advice cause shes been there too. You know what I hate? Friends that JUDGE you for your decisions. PSHHH
so um. im gonna steal part of that. and post it somewhere.
I just cried. why did i just see this now. Thank you Umma. I love you and I am always there. ALways.
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